Hi Micah:
As a published author do you have to deal with rejection and if so how do you do it without tearing out your hair?
Three initial points:
1. Being published does not make me rejection-proof.
2. Being published is evidence of frequent rejection.
3. I’m 35 and I still have all my hair, so why mess with a fortunate thing?
A dozen or so agents passed on my first novel. My second novel took me one year to write and three years to sell. So I’ve come to treat rejection as a non-issue. Really? Yes. Really. You see, we’re not dealing with any absolutes in this business. If we were—and of course we all still quest for those absolutes, from writers to editors to publicists to readers—then every book bought by a publishing house and shipped to your local bookstore would sell by the truckload. We would have the answer , and know which books are worthy and which are not. Awards would be foregone conclusions. The NYT bestseller list would be redundant.
Of course we can tilt the odds in our favor; write about a dog, put a skinny girl wearing red pumps and carrying a shopping bag on the cover, mention something in the flap copy about a brilliant serial killer and the young Fed on his trail. But we’re all still guessing, and wishing, and (hopefully) writing what we love. And when it comes time to get your work out there someone (or several someones) will say “Not for me.” Your role is to grin and bear it. Move on. Keep writing. Keep reading. And keep submitting. “Submitting” in the sense of getting your work out there, not submitting in the sense of lying-in-the-bathtub-curled-in-the-fetal-position. Though if that’s your chosen method of catharsis, who am I to judge?
I almost enjoy rejection because it lets me know I’m not playing it safe. It would have been easier to write another book in the style of my first, the literary coming-of-ager set against an academic backdrop. Toss in a few Gatsby references, some allusions to dead languages, and voilá: the sophomore effort is born. Would it have sold quicker than Jack the Bastard? Than Memphis is Burning? Maybe. Probably. But I didn’t want to write something just for the sake of selling it. I wanted to write something that got me excited rather than mold something in the hopes of finding the answer.
So yes, I deal with rejection. And if you decide to make a go of the writing life, rejection will be your constant companion. Get used to it. Pour it a drink, ask it for some advice, and when it comes time to get back to work, politely show it the door. Or throw it the hell out. Just know it will always return.